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Adoption VS Surrogacy - The Way of Seeking Baby for Infertile and Gay Couples.

Updated: Jul 21, 2020

Our dream of pursuing conceiving will never end. For many young people in modern times, many people think that babies will cause a huge financial burden. However, for many same-sex marriages and infertility people, it is a lifetime regret to have no babies. Wanting to be like everyone and having a baby has always been the pursuit of many same-sex marriages and many infertile couples. Today we are going to discuss the pros and cons of "adoption" and "surrogacy" that gay groups and infertile couples are looking for a baby.

Adoption vs Surrogacy: Price

Both adoption and surrogacy have various costs and expenses. Overall, adoption is a small part of the cost of surrogacy.

Surrogacy is very expensive. The costs include medical costs for IVF, out-of-pocket expenses borne by surrogate mothers, and compensation for surrogate mothers. Surrogacy also includes medical costs for pregnancy and childbirth and legal costs. In the United States, the total cost of surrogacy is usually at least $ 100,000.

The cost of adoption is much cheaper, and adoption plans often need to include at least the cost of home study. In the U.S., home study usually costs less than $ 5,000. Generally, most people need help to find a baby to adopt. The cost of finding a baby to adopt in the United States also ranges from $ 5,000 to $ 15,000. The birth mother may also ask for related expenses as compensation. Adoptive parents are allowed in most U.S. states to help their poorer mothers at a cost.

Adoption vs Surrogacy: Medical Behavior and Prenatal Environment

The benefit of adoption is of course that there is no need to go through complicated medical behaviors, which is of course much more convenient for many people, but it also means that adoptive parents cannot master the baby's prenatal environment, so it is less stable, prospective parents cannot know the baby’s health history.

On the contrary, although IVF needs to undergo complex medical behaviors, it can better grasp the entire production process. Therefore, certainty is also relatively high. Through IVF technology, prospective parents can choose the sex of the baby, whether to have twins and reduce genes. The risk of deformity or defect can also ensure better genetic inheritance, because the donor's education, ability, occupation, IQ, appearance life background, etc. can be screened, but the disadvantage is that embryos fail to implant in the surrogate’s womb, or IVF may fail to conceive.

Adoption vs. Surrogacy: Law

In the United States, adoptive parents and biological mothers do not have legally effective "adoption contracts", and biological mothers may change their minds at any time and cause a lot of trouble. On the contrary, there is a complete and legally effective "surrogate mother contract" between the prospective parents and the surrogate mother, and it is less likely that the surrogate mother will temporarily change her mind and not give the baby.

Adoption vs Surrogacy: When to be a parent

In the United States, potential parents must be assessed with their adopted child for several months before being officially adopted as a baby's adoptive parent, but surrogacy is the baby's parent-child relationship confirmed by the court before birth.


In general, there are pros and cons between adoption and surrogacy. In addition to the aforementioned issues of price, medical behavior, and prenatal environment, legal aspects, the timing of becoming a parent, etc., there is no physical relationship between adoption. And there are real biological parents. Would it possible to allow your child to find his/her biological parent when the baby grows up? Surrogacy has problems such as non-English speaking countries or the need to find professional reproductive institutions if they do not understand US reproductive regulations.

In the United States, the laws on adoption and surrogacy differ from state to state. For example, some laws determine whether a surrogate mother can be found, and some laws require who can get a court order before the baby is born, and the cost varies from state to state. If you have a need, please be sure to study your options carefully before implementing any scheme. Boston Blue Life is an expert in the field of reproduction. If necessary, please contact us for advice.

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